I really doubt one would fiddle with things to get on their spouses nerves. If that's the case then you have bigger problem in your marriage than him fiddling.

My fiancée has OCD and tourettes. Over the course of his life he was accused of doing it on purpose. To aggravate others or to get attention. His own family referred to things he does as "annoying" even if it is obviously couldn't be completely controlled ( he controls some of it and Meds take edge off but it cannot be completely gone). It's kind of heart breaking.

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