He says he is willing but just does it again. I keep trying to change my feelings about it and so far it is not going too well. I may be in trouble because of my past history. My father and mother.were violent and sometimes scary and mother suffered from dimentia in her latter years. I think any strange behavior is hard for me to deal with and this is strange and scary to me. I have expressed these feelings but still he does that in front of me. He says it is not deliberate but sometimes it feels very pointed. He is caring in other ways and has always been somewhat of a fiddler this is just more but it is really effecting me. It is effecting my well being.