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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
I would like to make friends, but one of the problems is that I don't relate to anyone. Even with people I have a lot in common with, I just don't know how to relate to them. I frequently find myself only able to listen to other people talk as I have little to nothing to contribute to the conversation.
I don't relate to fellow grad students in the same department. I've tried community groups with mixed results, but I don't have time to spend a night or two a week there and no friendships really continued after I couldn't be there all the time. I've tried meet-ups, but I don't make friends. Again, even if I had something in common, I wouldn't relate to them. It's like humans are a different species.
I think I've developed social anxiety because I don't understand other people. I have zero clue how they might act or why. I either don't have anything to contribute to a conversation because other people seem to only talk about things I've never experienced or can't relate to or I can't tell when I'm supposed to say something when I do have something to say.
I have no idea how I have a boyfriend, other than he seems to be the only other person around here that's the same species and can actually relate to me.
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Honestly, I used to feel this way. Maybe you feel that "relating" to other people means developing deep connections, and you're simply not feeling that natural 'click' with people. Relating to people and bonding with them are two completely different things, and I think that you may have misconstrued the two.