I can also relate so deeply to this article,
"8 Signs you may have a codependent parent"
http://hubpages.com/health/8-Signs-Y...pendent-Parent

1. The Codependent Parent Has a Victim Mentality
2. The Codependent Parent Is Never Wrong
3. The Codependent Parent Is Overly Emotional
4. The Codependent Parent Never Listens
5. The Codependent Parent Parrots Words and Phrases
6. The Codependent Parent Has Mood Swings
7. The Codependent Parent Must Maintain Control at All Costs
8. The Codependent Parent Manipulates – Subtly

Yes, yes!! I can relate from 1-8!

I know they're not bad people, I know they love me very much, as do I and deep inside they have the right intentions, but it's the way they talk,think and handle things. I can only imagine my parents living near me and if I don't visit every now and then the issue will be "Why don't you visit! etc etc" ..

I live hours,miles,states away and what hurts me the most is that I am finally free now to do my life, I no longer live under their roof, I never ask them for money or depend on them for anything. I work, I am responsible, don't do drugs, I am in a serious relationship, they seriously don't have anything bad to say about me. Other than make up issues to make me feel guilty or bad. I even manage to call them almost every day to maintain the relationship. What else do you want from me!?

I even visited them and stayed with them for 3 weeks straight to spend some time, cause I know for a fact if I were to go to their state and stay in a hotel it would be a problem! I feel I shouldn't have even stayed with them for so long, because now they feel nostalgic about having me in the house. It's been four years since I left their house, I've tried so hard to make them happy to the point where I use to argue so much with my partner even when he had a point.
I don't mind helping my parents if they ever need it, but they have to learn to respect that I am an adult now. That I will state my opinion, that I do have the rights to disagree with them.

I'm sorry guys if I am venting so much, I just feel so stressed..