Ok I am not the lady but my soon to be ex and I have talked about this before. She said she knew she wanted out five years ago. We went through some very difficult times with unusal circumstances...and they just wore the marriage down....we talk more now than we did when we were together. I can remember thinking around the same time she said she was thinking of leaving...I had the same thoughts...but neither one of us mentioned it before last September.

Tobey