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Originally Posted by Melodysmooth
Thank you s4ndm4n2006,
You're absolutely right. Oh, when I mentioned the "what if's", I was told that I was being so negative and how I need to understand that they'e not going to live with me, that it's going only to be for a month or two.
They have an alternative shelter, an uncle with a spare room who even offered them to crash in, multiple times and they know it's only an hour away from me, why not just take that offer?! Why must you pressure me?
Ah.. I know why, because you feel more comfortable being here next to me, because they probably feel free to be controlling here, they see us as "kids", and perhaps in my uncle's house since he's about the same age as them, they know they can't control another man's house.
Sometimes I wish I would have been more rebellious as a teenager, that way maybe now as an adult they would respect my decisions and opinions.
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Exactly. they want to be able to meddle and control your life. You know at best even if you resisted their attempts to control, you'd be made miserable in the process anyway.
As for the part about being rebellious, no, you don't want that. Rebellious is simply going against authority for rebellion's sake it's a faux way of being independent but it really isn't based on it's motivation. What you should probably have been, and mind you it's not too late now to become, is ASSERTIVE. Now, I'm not claiming to be an expert on the subject because that's part of my problem too (see previous comment on my ex living with me :P ) but I do know that this is something that would improve my interactions with her and others like her
Assertiveness is being able to stand up for what you really believe in and stand firm even in the face of over zealous control freaks.