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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
Exactly. they want to be able to meddle and control your life. You know at best even if you resisted their attempts to control, you'd be made miserable in the process anyway.
As for the part about being rebellious, no, you don't want that. Rebellious is simply going against authority for rebellion's sake it's a faux way of being independent but it really isn't based on it's motivation. What you should probably have been, and mind you it's not too late now to become, is ASSERTIVE. Now, I'm not claiming to be an expert on the subject because that's part of my problem too (see previous comment on my ex living with me :P ) but I do know that this is something that would improve my interactions with her and others like her  Assertiveness is being able to stand up for what you really believe in and stand firm even in the face of over zealous control freaks. |
Assertive sounds way better than being rebellious,lol and man do I lack
a lot of it. I think that's my new favorite word
Maybe that's why I rarely use to state my opinion to them and say what I truly believe is right. I was always hit with the "because we're your parents, or look at all that we've done for you".
They protected me so much that at times it did more harm than good. I am very grateful for all they've done for me. But, sometimes a
parent's love can be so toxic.
I remember when I was a teenager, I didn't even feel
free to talk so I kept a lot of thoughts to myself, always had this feeling that I was '
trapped'.. and now that I am an adult and free to do as I wish, I feel lost because it's like letting an animal who has been
caged for so long loose into the world.. but I digress, that's a whole different story, lol.