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Originally Posted by emijec
Been in one relationship after another since 2015 (4 of them to be exact)where I end up getting dumped and feeling broken hearted... anyone else out there going through the same? I just got dumped today and I messed it all up, me and my baggage and negative outlook.
what happened in your relationship? how do you feel? any fears? hopes? How do you get over this? can a person who's been changed by depression to have a pessimistic outlook ever find love? my getting cheated on in a 3 year relationship (habitual cheater , empregnated 3 women during relationship) caused my depression and changed my outlook... caused insecurities and lash outs.. ended the last relationship, a good one. but I promised myself I wouldn't ever be stepped on.. I don't know if misread the signals in a truly good person or if he was trying to mold me into what he wanted me to be.. I don't know what is a gut feeling and what was insecurities post-depression. I'm 34, no kids. I fear being alone and I just want to love someone who loves me back. it seems too much to ask. to be happy and in love. the end of a relationship feels like when you throw something into the deep water and you watch it disappear forever. I'm crying as I write this... it's just so painful.
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Really feel for you. It's very difficult to get past the hurt . I've read your post and subsequent replies. From what I gather your ex is borderline narcissists or is a narcissists. It was all about him sleeping or the house" counter top" , tooth paste and more than likely even more than being a few minutes late for dinner , a relationship is mutual respect for one another first then other forms of " love " follow after that.
Yes it was a difficult situation with the money troubles and testing that adds stress to any relationship.
Later you said" time heals all wounds" ...time doesn't heal wounds ....time allows you to not remember as often....forgiveness for yourself and to him heals.ie." closure" in one way or another mutually or seperate.
There will be a day and I hope very soon that you find someone that makes you forget the pain caused by others. When one leaves is for a reason.....to make room for another that is better than the previous. Keep your head up and your eyes open and you'll be ok.