Kudos to you rainbow for having the courage to focus on the here-and-now with your T!

I seriously shy away from the discomfort of it and change the topic (which my T finally pointed out) -- it's what I do in the rest of my life as well and so, being okay doing it seems like a long road ahead.

I guess I don't really have much else to say except take your time with the abuse label -- I find that just my emotions (about any event) being validated is often enough until I can get used to whatever the label is.

It sounds like you're really making awesome progress in your therapy!