Hmmm...I'm not sure how I would define "trust" for my T. What I DO know is that from the very first session, I felt really different than with any of my past T's. She got me really quickly. I don't remember what she said to me in that first session, but she got to the heart of the matter pretty easily.

From then on, I'd say these are the main qualifiers for me continuing to put my trust in her, but it isn't a 100% "I completely and utterly trust my T with anything I say" kind of thing...

1. She has consistently been the same, warm and kind of funny person every single week. I never have to guess at if maybe she's mad at me or something (which i did ALL the time with my last T)

2. Surprisngly for me, her allowing me to e-mail and call when I need it, has been HUGELY helpful. She almost always responds, and the times where I really am feeling badly, she always manages to say something that I take comfort in. I mean, I wrote her a VERY drunken email over the weekend. It wasn't like I was misspelling or anything, but I did tell her I had been drinking.
She still wrote an amazingly supportive email back, and when I responded and told her how drunk I was, she didn't seem to mind.

3. The few times that she's messed up with going over time with her previous client, she has been like "Oh, shyte, you must be SO pissed at me!! I am so sorry," and explained what happened. She tried to get me to talk to her about how hurt and angry I must have been once when I actually left and went home she was so late. I didn't, but it was nice to hear that I could.

4. She has been unwavering in the many, (many) times that I waver about me "needing" therapy. I am not really depressed (her: yes you are). I don't really have any major problems, I AM FINE. (her: no, i don't think you are). I sometimes get mad at her and say "Come on, i need you to collude with me!," and she'll jokingly tell me "Oh yes! Get out of here! You are totally fine. I never want to see you again." haha. But, she also has very seriously said that she thinks I truly need help--and for some, that may rub them the wrong way, but I am so stuck on "My life is going completely fine/I am so privileged/I have it so well/etc..." that I need to hear that.

And mainly, we seemed to click easily--or for me, anyway.