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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
Question: Do you have the same level of anxiety and everything that goes with it when speaking to a woman you have no intention of dating?
If the answer is "no, my discomfort is considerably less"
Then Question 2: Have you considered dating women casually, as practice runs?
I would suggest trying it, consider these women training wheels, and once you can ride the dating bicycle with more confidence, you can stop dating training wheels.
I mean, as long as you don't lead anyone on, there's no harm no foul. They get the pleasure of your company and you gain the necessary experience....
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There is definitely more anxiety when I am interested in a girl, because in that case I am concerned about messing things up. When talking to a girl I am not interested in, there isn't as much anxiety, beyond my normal level of social anxiety. But of course it also depends on how she acts. If she puts me at ease I will be more comfortable.
As for the second question, dating isn't really where my problem is. My problem is connecting with girls I would like to date. Dating would be the next step. However, I would actually love to causally date girls I am attracted to physically but not really interested in. Not so much for practice, but more so for the physical attraction aspect. However, very few girls are open to this sort of thing. Most girls would consider it sleazy for a guy to date them just for the physical attraction aspect.