This passage scares me. You are describing a situation in which something not in your control (whether or not your dad gets a job) leads to they're going to be my responsibility. What if your dad decides he "can't get a job" after searching for a few days? What if he can get a job but decides that the jobs are not appropriate for him? What if he decides that driving/commuting is too long/too difficult in New Jersey? What if he decides that he is too tired/old to work? What if he decides to work part-time and therefore "can't afford" New Jersey?

Reading about the silent treatment: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr-...lent-treatment