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Originally Posted by Bill3
This passage scares me. You are describing a situation in which something not in your control (whether or not your dad gets a job) leads to they're going to be my responsibility. What if your dad decides he "can't get a job" after searching for a few days? What if he can get a job but decides that the jobs are not appropriate for him? What if he decides that driving/commuting is too long/too difficult in New Jersey? What if he decides that he is too tired/old to work? What if he decides to work part-time and therefore "can't afford" New Jersey?
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That's true,
Wow Bill3, you mentioned a few things that sound verry much like my dad. Especially, when it comes to driving. He doesn't like driving too far to get to his job, usually he prefers a 30-40 min commute or less. Also, the jobs not being appropriate is another thing as well, because he has 20 years experience working in a particular industry and that is what he has his mind set to.
In the past, when they did live with us for a while, my fiance offered that he can help him find a job where he works at, and my dad said no because he wants to work with what he knows. I brought up all these things as well, but of course this just kept adding to the whole, "why are you being so negative".. I thought I was being realistic.
Thank you for the link, will look into it.