Believe me I don't want to use anyone - I really hate people who do that. I guess it's my past involvement with people but it's too bad they can't recognize when they are really hurting someone. Some just seem oblivious to this fact and this is where we really fall short as a species. Seems like we don't really go out of our way to ease the pain of someone who cares for us but we just can't or don't want to reciprocate. My experience is once people get focused on someone they forget what other people have done for them and are exclusively self centered. Call me bitter but this my experience - what you see internally is never going to match reality. This is limits of being human and it's hard to accept that we can't expand our shells. I like her, she likes somebody else this the vacuum we live in. Onward.