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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Actually Shadix, women get flack too and told to date people in their own "league or bracket". It is quite possible that girls pull back from you because they feel you may not be interested, this is especially true if you come across aloof. Girls go through gauky stages too, some peak early, others later.
Some men are not as attractive in High School, but with time they can get quite handsome, while the guys that were attractive in HS can get homely and unattractive as they peaked too early.
It is not unreasonable that with your feeling that you have grown more attractive that you would want to make up for when you did not experience the kind of dating that many younger guys enjoy.
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Yes I do think it is likely there are many girls who pull back from me because the get the idea I am not interested. The reason I might come off that way is my social anxiety and fear of expressing my interest. I really do think that society instills a deep sense of shame in us about approaching women.
The main things that changed between high school and now are my physique, social skills and style. In high school I used to be really scrawny, whereas now I work out and have a body type which would be described as very fit and attractive. In high school, I had 0 social skills. I am still somewhat awkward now but wayyyyyyy better than I was back then. I also dress much more in style now than I did in high school.
But unfortunately, society has things set up so that it is very difficult for guys past a certain age, even if they are attractive, to enjoy the same types of experiences that the attractive younger guys typically get to have. This is accomplished through social engineering and the idea is to push people into settling down and starting families by the time they are in their 30s.