Guided meditation is where to start. The Deepak Chopra stuff is where I started. Its difficult to do, but you just have to keep trying and eventually it will work. You may advance quickly or you may take awhile to get there. But it is really worth it. My husband suffered from anxiety his entire life. So I created my own meditation video, which he was able to benefit from immediately.

At the end of the 18 minute video he was totally relaxed and reluctant to open his eyes. Deepak Chopra's tapes are great. Eventually you will be able to quiet your mind to the point where you have no thoughts. It's your mind that is the receptor of painful thoughts. When you quiet the mind, your heart and soul are your receptors. Healing occurs when you are in heart and soul. There are many great meditation videos online, on YouTube, I would put my on there, but the images I've used have copyrights, which means I can only use them for personal use, otherwise I would share. If you focus on your breathing, it pushes your mind to the background. Again, it gets easier with time, so don't fight yourself to get there. You need to let it happen.