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Old Apr 07, 2016, 03:54 PM
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Originally Posted by emijec View Post
that is all completely true... I just have to come to terms that it's over. that's the hard part, it's only been 7 days . I did send him a goodbye email, so that I could start the process of closure and to see if there was one more chance. I apologized and did communicate how hurt I felt about this situation with being there for his friends wife.

he never responded . and I suspect that it's bc something has flourished . nonetheless, I just have to cope with it all.
I know it wasn't a good fit, and I helped end it with my behavior. I think what has most affected me is finding myself turning 34 and I guess o figured I'd find that person by now, that I'd have a chance at having a family soon. I do want to find love not perfection... that's unrealistic.

i as just ready for happiness I guess. I'm not trying to find someone to make me happy I want to be happy and am ready to give my love. a true partnership I suppose. it's just hard to find someone at my age that is in the same stage.
It's hard to find someone at ANY age. You're feeling a crunch of time because of your age, re/family, having children, etc. But, believe me, there are much worse things than being alone. Don't compromise in terms of what you desire in a relationship

This fella, who was supportive of the widow...in my humble opinion, your instincts were right to be concerned.

Don't second-guess yourself on your responses/instincts. It made you feel insecure, and a loving relationship should not do that to you. If it didn't feel right, then, it wasn't.

I sense that you are going back and questioning and even berating yourself for your emotional comments to him. Don't do that. If a man can't handle emotional confrontation in a dating scenario, what would it be like in a lifelong commitment!
Hugs from:
emijec
Thanks for this!
emijec, lineman1010