Your intuition told you to look. What you saw revealed something that was hidden. It would be great if this was as simple as what I just wrote. But it's much more complicated. What does it mean? Well, my daughter's ex-boyfriend did the same thing. He started looking for his next before he was finished with his last. My son's boyfriend did the same thing. He began hanging out with his next before he was finished with his last. In both cases, there was a break up. My daughter's boyfriend actually ended up having a fling with his best friend's girlfriend. What a cliche. So he cheated on my daughter.
That doesn't mean this is what's happening to you. But it might mean that. Some people just can't bow out gracefully and then move to their next. Those people are called overlappers. They overlap their relationships. So they find their next before they leave their last. It's totally unfair to the person they are currently with. But they are afraid of being alone, so they overlap. This might be what's happening. I've seen this happen twice, once with each of my adult children. I'm sorry if this is what's happening. And again, it doesn't mean I'm right.
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