I have experienced 2 therapists 'abandonments' and my current therapist doesn't understand them either, in fact she is quite appalled at my previous therapists.

Like you, my first one, many years ago was one of the most difficult things I've gone thru. And like you it last nearly 5 years, until I meant therapist-number-2 -who-abandoned-me. The 2nd abandoment was a little more understandable, but she handled it horribly.

As I indicated above, my current therapist has been wonderful about understanding and empathizing with my grief. She truly gets how important these previous relationships were to me and can't believe how it all transpired.

Unfortunately I worry my new T will 'turn' just as the others had, but we're trying to work thru it