My traumatic experiences were in domestic abuse for over 10 years of a 22 year relationship. After the physical stopped....10 years in...he switched to emotional which I didn't catch on to....until many years later. My personality and trust have developed from that relationship....very on guard and not trusting at all....I identify the way my current boyfriend acts...in relation to my X. For example...If my current b/f gets mad...I shake...want to run out the door...etc. My current b/f has never physically abused me.