I was abandoned by ex-T. Everyone thought she was a great T, even people here on PC. She said the things that sound wonderful (i.e. I won't leave you, I won't abandon you, I'm here for you, I care about you, etc). She still left me and I don't know why. She also asked me to not contact her.

I did look for a new T after the abandonment. I had to. I wasn't going to survive on my own. New T has been good. We talk about termination often: when, why, length, etc. We also talk about our relationship. It helps keep things realistic.

T and I sometimes talk about why ex-T might have left me. We have two new theories. 1. Ex-T and I crossed boundaries? and she didn't know how to fix it. 2. She couldn't accept my secret, but didn't want to say so because I then wouldn't tell anyone else.

T told me that she has even discussed my situation with her group of Ts (like a support group for Ts), and they all agreed that ex-T handled it poorly.