Most Ts do not reach out like you are talking about.
Even my T , who I KNOW loves me deeply will only check up on me if I request it and set it up ahead of time. Its a way of protecting clients. Some people manage by compartmentalizing their therapy issues.that is broken down if your T "invades" the rest of your life.
So you may want to consider if your expectations there are realistic. My T and I have been working together for 4 years and are extremely close, but unless I was very sick in the hospital or my spouse passed away, I could never imagine her "checking up" on me unless I asked her to.