It's hard to find someone at ANY age. You're feeling a crunch of time because of your age, re/family, having children, etc. But, believe me, there are much worse things than being alone. Don't compromise in terms of what you desire in a relationship

This fella, who was supportive of the widow...in my humble opinion, your instincts were right to be concerned.

Don't second-guess yourself on your responses/instincts. It made you feel insecure, and a loving relationship should not do that to you. If it didn't feel right, then, it wasn't.

I sense that you are going back and questioning and even berating yourself for your emotional comments to him. Don't do that. If a man can't handle emotional confrontation in a dating scenario, what would it be like in a lifelong commitment!