(((((((((((((((((((( ww ))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm sorry for what you are and have been going thru. those hugs are full of care and understanding.

I was abused for a long period of time as a child...in many ways. I then had to deal with the fact that my daughter was abused. It was so hard. I had to be there for my daughter while pushing back the amazing triggers I was experiencing.

ww, I've had to realize that we can't protect our children from all. I was a mother that the other mothers would look at and say, "Kim, let her go a little bit." I was extremely vigilant and over protective. However, she was still abused. When this happened, I was right downstairs with my best girlfriend playing a board game in the middle of the afternoon. We continually checked on the kids...and yet it happened. I couldn't see that there was nothing differently at the time that I could've done. I felt sooooo guilty!!!!!

Now, after years of therapy and time passing, I look back with alot of emotions (of course), but I also look back knowing that there was no way to predict that and that it did not happen because I wasn't being a good mother.

I don't understand why it happened. I don't understand why our children get hurt. I think we like to see the good in people and the perpetrators (even children) know that, use it and because of their careful planning and perverse needs, are able to find that opportune moment, no matter how vigilant we are.

((((((((((((((((((wisewoman)))))))))))))))))))) I hope so much for you and yours right now.

Be safe,

Kimmydawn