Thinking you can get through life without either hurting someone or being hurt by someone isn't likely going to bear fruit. Did it hurt when my friend broke our friendship over the price of a video? Of course it hurt my feelings. But, people hurt each other. It's part of life. And it's going to keep happening until everyone deals with the pain of their past. The reason we get hurt is because we've stored pain, and then someone touches that pain.

I don't have many friends, usually one or two at any one time. Mostly because it's a lot of work having friends and sometimes it's not worth the work, so I choose not to invest in the friendship as a hypocrite. In other words, I'm not going to be friends with someone unless I'm really invested. And I'm not going to pretend to care more than I actually do.

Friendships end all the time, some people make it a bigger deal than it needs to be when a friendship ends. Again, friendships end every minute of every day all over the world. It's normal. It's part of life. There's no blame. There's no judgment. It's just how it is. It sucks if a friendship ends when you don't want it to. And it sucks when you have to end a friendship. But it is common and part of life. You have two choices: hurt your friend by being honest OR hurt your friend by slowly disappearing from their life. Either way they will get hurt. If you slowly disappear from their life, there's a small chance it won't hurt. If you outright tell them it's over, it will definitely hurt, even if they don't show it.

The friendship I ended ended because I got tired of listening to her complain about her latest boyfriend. I believe if you are not willing to do something about a problem you have, you have no right to whine about it. Clearly she just went from bad boyfriend to bad boyfriend to bad boyfriend. That's not friendship, that's therapy and it's like a broken record. Friendship is a two way street, if you are not getting anything out of it, then you are being a hypocrite by staying in the friendship.