i am on the other end of your situation except no drugs for fun. marriage is for better or worse right now he's worse. it dose get better sound like he could use some cousling of his own and not just couples councling does he have a doc he sees regularly? thats important. the main thing is right now you have to be healthy to be able to help him not resentful that will never work. sounds like you love him try yo remmeber the reasons you fell in love with him. make time for just yoou two. i have three kids and its rough. no cake walk. please don;t take my frankness as bieng rude i just want to get my points accross to you in a seriouse way. feel free to pm any time like i said im on the other end of where you are maybe i could give you some insight. he's dealing with demonds of his own so don't feel that its you. thats important that you stay strong for the both of you. sorry so long -onyx