I've been amazed by the overwhelming number of painful posts by clients who were abandoned by a T. I suffered this devastating betrayal about 5 years ago and identified with so many poster's experience anonymity here gives therapists an opportunity to answer some of the big questions and to tell the other side of the story without fear I'm one of the many who, years later continue to struggle and be left with confusion and significant trust problems. I urge the (sizeable group of) therapists who make up the other side of this equation to help us all out. answer that hanging "why?" and even your own pain if you felt it. this isn't an ethical inquiry so please bypass the urge to "make your case" or respond with the "right" answers. you're off the record so tell it true I think both sides can benefit We can try to learn and heal as we start a dialogue that is needed if we are to address the fact that a disturbingly high number of former therapy clients have been harmed

Sadly, my experience has prevented me from seeking help I was given the explicit impression that I could trust my therapist I was promised a great deal of loyalty and honesty My therapist spent 2 years telling me things that one day (without warning or explanation) suddenly meant nothing we had a close knit relationship one day and then she sent an em to ail basically I got half-assed, embarrassingly over-vague "explanation" that practically screamed "blah, blah...load of crap...***-covering list of a few referrals....blah, blah... gesture of condescending lack of regard for you"

I never got any answers and my requests for closure were met with a cold, poorly veiled angry string of useless remarks that presumably had some value in service to someone other than me. rather than any useful info I walked away of a 2 year old relationship completely broken and a bonus kick to the gut in the form of a declaration of "no further communication" if you are asking yourself, "what horrible thing did this person do to his therapist?" (because I sure as hell wanted to know).... that question was never even acknowledged

How do I even begin to consider therapy now? it was the worst experience of my life I spent a small fortune to be damaged deeply. My life remains significantly diminished

REACH OUT AND ENCOURAGE THE OTHER SIDE OF THE CONVERSATION TO COME TO THE TABLE I wish I could offer my former therapist a seat at the table... just one of many anonymous voices. But I cant use her name

I can only hope that this post will make its way to a place in Texas where they serve heaps of Italian? or maybe Latvian? concoctions