Your description makes it sound like your therapy as become too much about the therapist and the relationship and has forgotten to be about you. Is it possible it is just time to find a different therapist so that you can refocus and your sessions can become more productive? You sound stuck and maybe to get unstuck will require moving on with someone else? I don't know, but this therapy with this particular therapist seems to be more harmful and stifling than helpful and validating and growing.