Maybe if it's so painful to stop seeing her, could you also see another T for a bit? I understand finances could be an issue but perhaps if there are sliding scale or free options in your area?

So, you don't have to abruptly terminate with her but keep seeing her while also consulting another T -- maybe even once in 2 weeks or so?

I agree with everyone else who's said that this situation sounds very unhealthy -- the fact that you've been in therapy so long and your therapist is your only support raises all sorts of red flags for me about how competent or ethical your T is.

And, so I don't think your needs are not taking priority in therapy as they should be -- if there's some way to give yourself some space and options while you deal with this situation with your current T, it could help. It's not ideal but if it works...

Needless to say, I don't know the specifics of your situation -- so, take this for what it's worth.