Nothing you said in your OP sounded abusive to me. It does sound like your T is taking you behavior way too personally and it's becoming the focal point of therapy. Even if you refused to speak every session I wouldn't consider it abusive. In a close personal relationship like marriage, yes, it can be, but not in the context of therapy. I'd wonder about the effectiveness of therapy and how helpful this is if your T can't handle a little conflict. It may be painful to switch to another T but may be what's needed.