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Originally Posted by Pfrog
I'm going on my 24th year ... I did attempt a brief reconnect with one sister only to find nothing had changed, and that was that ... And, no, there were no apologies ... Only more attempts to manipulate and abuse ... That's all I needed to know and there will be no more attempts by me to contact them, nor any replies from me should any of them ever try to contact me.
And, you're correct in your analogy of a wife going back time and again to their abuser ... Often our families of origin are where we get our first taste of domestic violence and then end up repeating the behaviors and patterns because it's what we grew up in ... But, once we figure it out and know better, we're able to set new patterns of behavior and boundaries and not tolerate abuse from anyone ever again!
Sincerely,
Pfrog!
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Good for you! I'm so sorry that you had to deal with all of that! I doubt that my sister will ever apologize to me or try to reach out to me in any way. Even if she does, I will accept her apology, but I certainly won't give her another chance to abuse me again, ever.
I'm also keeping everything that I don't want repeated to myself from now on as neither my mom or my dad can ever be trusted to not gossip about me to her and everyone else it seems like. She has read some personal emails sent to my dad, not her. I wouldn't be surpised if my dad shared them with her.
I should've cut her out of my life a long time ago as it's obvious she'll never change. She has issues that she refuses to get help for. She will always lash out at other people and continue to get into trouble again and again.
No more. Never again.