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Originally Posted by unaluna
How old are you?
Giving someone the silent treatment is abusive. I read a book about it, they did a bunch of experiments.
Staying present in the moment is very difficult. I get the feeling you guys are fighting about theoretical situations rather than actual - why not talk more about real things?
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Uhhhh....the OP was NOT being abusive. Come on! She was scared, filled with anxiety, and probably one of her default moves when she feels triggered in this way is to shut down. Mine is. That is VERY different than the silent treatment. I should know, as my mom was an expert at it.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
The description of the client does not sound abusive to me - and certainly not in a therapy situation. It sounds to me more like the therapist has issues they cannot contain.
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Exactly.
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Originally Posted by musinglizzy
My T recently said she felt bullied by me. That was extremely hurtful and I've not been able to drop it yet.
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Ugh. I wish you;d stop seeing this T! (sorry, tangent)
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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
So she changes her tune and does a 180 every other week it seems, she says hurtful things, she threatens to leave you, then she sweet-talks you, then she turns on you again? You are describing classic abusive behavior from her towards you. It may not be intentional, but she's jerking you around and not improving your mental health.
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YES.