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Originally Posted by unaluna
The OP said she didnt name-call, etc, therefore she wasnt abusive. I was just letting her know that the silent treatment IS abusive - i wasnt saying SHE was being abusive. If she didnt think it was abusive, clearly her intent was missing. I wasnt crucifying her for it. But sheesh some people sure crucified me for trying to educate her (not you velcro - my mother was an expert at the silent treatment too, as we have discussed). I was not HINTING she was being abusive. I said what i meant and i meant what i said, relative to the OP. like Oprah says, when you know better, you do better. But if the best the OP can do in session is the silent treatment, im not going to judge her one way or the other. e
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But how did she give her T the silent treatment? She said she was anxious and nervous and upset, and couldn't talk about what was wrong--she was afraid of inciting the T. That is NOT silent treatment. As you said, you know what it is. The person is consciously ignoring you, no matter what. The OP wasn't ignoring her T. She was upset. Yes, she declined a hug, but she shouldn't hug if she doesn't want to.
When you write a sentence "Silent treatment is abusive," as an absolute statement to her post, it certainly comes off as you were telling her she was being abusive.