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That was very well said! I couldn't agree with you more on that! It seems like to many people are afraid of being direct with their friends. If more people would just be more open and direct instead of expecting their friends to take subtle hints, or to pick up on their passive aggressive messages, then maybe these kind of things wouldn't happen as often.

I'm speaking in general terms here and not directing anything at Claire. It does hurt like hell when people that you thought cared about you just toss you aside like you never meant anything to them at all for no apparent reason. Then you're left wondering what the hell it is that you did wrong, cry about it, get depressed, get angry, think that you're the problem even though you might have never really been the problem, etc...

As for your friend, they sound like they enjoy using the silent treatment and passive-aggressive behaviour every time they get upset with you. I hate that. That is childish and cowardly behaviour IMHO. I could never be friends with someone who pulls crap like that and think that it's OK to do so. I respect friends who are honest and direct. Not childish immature ones who don't have the balls to tell me how they really feel.

Like I mentioned before, if there is a problem in a friendship, it can maybe be saved if both people can communicate their feelings to each other in and adult manner. I'll always tell a friend if their behaviour is upsetting or hurting me and give them a chance to change that behaviour. If they don't, then that's when I'll cut them out of my life if they can't stop upsetting or hurting me with their negative or annoying behaviour.

Have you ever talked to your friend about how his behaviour is upsetting you? If not, I think that you should. Like I said, sometimes misunderstandings occur, and some friendships can be saved just by speaking up more often. But that's only if the other person is able to listen and understand your feelings and your side of the story. If they can't, then at least you'll know that you made an effort to save the friendship.