Are you all complaining because i EXPLAINED that the silent treatment is abusive, so now you cant use it anymore without feeling quilty about it?

Read the OP. Please stop quoting little parts of it to me. Read the whole thing, as i have several times today. Why would i act like an ahole to this person? If you have read my posts, you would know that my longterm t said it took me 2 or 3 years before i started talking to her. You guys are amateurs at giving the silent treatment compared to me! I was relieved when i FINALLY like 30 years later found a book about it. You learn the silent treatment from being on the receiving end of it. Maybe thats why my posts are terse. But dont confuse terse with hostile.