I felt the same as you and my T dissauded me from getting hooked up.on labelling my thoughts and feelings. At the time I was left frustrated, but a couple of years on I get why for me, a label wouldn't have been ultimately helpful. I am sure it is not unusual to have borderline traits, low times, more excitable times, all part of the human experience. And I think for me, if I'd had a label, I may not have been able to move forward to where I am now, I think for me it may have been a hindrance, that I may have thought I had no power or control over it. I learned to acknowledge my difficulties and work with them. I'm now not sure if I ever "had" something and if I did it was my experience of "it" and reaction to "it" that needed the work.