It seems like a no brainer doesn't it? I began to collect extra stuff when my brother died. I graduated from trash to junk to selective junk. At first it was coping skill that gave me projects. Coping skill gone bad when too much of stuff and still if pile more. Thank you to those gently and consistently, forced perspective I am not a hoarder. But I have small piles of stuff in , everywhere except the bathroom. In these piles is one of everything that needs married to something else in all the other piles! I really want to three step these hurdles and celebrate at the finish line. Read books, asked friends, they don't get it exactly, I'm not hoarding again am I ?! No, I'm not, I assure them , and I'm not. I'm not taking more on, I just seem to rearrange what's left! Arg!