You weren't abusive.

She hasn't been your therapist at all for so long -- am not sure what your sessions consisted of but it sure wasn't therapy.

Her responses are WAY off the mark.

Really, find a new therapist, no matter how gut-wrenching it feels -- else, this whole situation is going to only get worse and the damage done to your psyche will be even more painful / deep.

If you stick around with her, know that you aren't getting therapy (and, so won't get better).