It seems to me that she can't keep her emotions and needs out of the therapy.

Not everyone is a giver. Some people are takers. Most of us, perhaps, are in between. And it's not that I think people should give selflessly, it's just that I think your therapist is not giving enough. She can't give you enough positive regard due to her own needs.

She does seem to come from the school of thought that thinks like this: "I give you x, and this is how you repay me?" I find those who do that are usually abusive people, narcissistic. Conditional giving. She expects things from you in return. It can be more covert or underhanded, which imo, makes it more distressing because other people might not see it. It's the type of abuse that leaves you constantly questioning yourself, which by the way, is what you are doing in this thread.

In short, her needing you to give her things in return makes therapy unworkable. This is twisted and will ultimately be damaging. Her needs overpower the therapy-she hasn't done enough of her own work. I hope you get out of this situation.