Dear T,

I just made a HUGE step toward my therapy goals, coincidentally something which you've encouraged me to do for years, and I only had the opportunity and courage last week. How come you are more interested in restating my objectives in detail and talking about them than you are interested in my big success? How come you're not willing to make a bit of an adjustment in the schedule of our weekly sessions to help me sustain the change? You promised you would make adjustments if I needed it in order to do this. I feel like you are now walking in a different direction than me, even though you claim to care about my objectives.

I never told you about how I compromised my well-being and health in my late teens to please an ex boyfriend, even though I knew what I was doing would do me more harm than good. I find myself thinking of doing this again - this is such an important and healing and necessary opportunity for me, and I find myself almost willing to miss it just to keep seeing you. I want to stop myself from doing that this time around though. I love you as the striving human being you are and I will always be grateful for all your help in the past, but overall this isn't therapy anymore. How come you're not seeing this, even with all the supervision and continued training? This is discouraging on so many levels ...

Will I have the courage and self-respect and confidence to leave, if it comes to either staying with you or making a decent life for myself? Therapy should not imply such a choice. Therapy is about working together toward building a good life for oneself.