Hi Shy, I'm sorry you've had to deal with so much negativity from your family.

Why do you feel your husband says those hurtful things to you? Do you think it's a misguided attempt to help you?

I don't agree with him when he states fat people aren't respected, if he were to say that to me I would reply "That is your opinion but I don't agree with it", this was something I learned to say to my own H who is quite a forceful personality. It closes down the discussion without being drawn into 'I am right - you are wrong' stalemates.

I think it's really sad that he rarely says anything positive about you - has he ever, or is this a rut that has developed? How do you feel about him? Do you feedback positive comments to him? You don't have to answer these questions btw, they are just thoughts to float by you, as this is a very personal subject.