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Originally Posted by RenouncedTroglodyte
Hello Spirtium!
I understand how you feel about not having a special woman in your life
It happens that someone comes across the wrong therapist  It's very important not to stop there, because not everything is tainted, there must be something somewhere around the corner that can keep you alive
Socializing is all about trial and error since it's a skill that you gain and grow each time you practice it. And of course, doing it while depressed or with low self-esteem will make the error part of trial and error be the end-point, the thing that will be taken as an evidence to absolute failure, but once we understand that this is a trial and error thing, like with any other skill, we can forgive ourselves for failing  And yes, some people seem to get it faster, but getting it slowly is actually a good thing, because you'll be more open to learn more things than those who think that they've "got it"
I recommend a self-teaching course you set for yourself, reading books on relationships and how to attract women, and I don't mean attracting women mainly with looks. Reading about the difference between men and women is something that will massively help, because you'll understand how you think and how a woman thinks, and also find ways how to communicate with women in a way that suits both you and her. There are a number of books that can teach you that, some of them are really wonderfully written like Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray. I suggest starting with this author who has a series of books inspired by the same title. I read a few of them, and they helped me tremendously.
Ensuring your well-being is pivotal too! Balancing the hormones and all the necessary brain chemicals naturally is the best way to go about it, and focus on it being natural. Underline that word with as many lines as you can!
Hope this helps!
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First of all, thank you all for replying, though the issue isn't with not knowing how to communicate or how to read basic body language; the issue is with not having anything to say or contribute due to lack of a social life or life experiences. I have been asked by others as to my relationship status, and upon hearing that I am single, they will respond with something like "oh, well, you still have time." Hearing this from married individuals 5 years younger than I am, kind of chips away at my self esteem.
In a time where people can barely go five minutes without being bombarded with texts, a man without even one friend is the furthest thing from attractive; people will figure that there is obviously something seriously wrong with this guy and that it is probably best to avoid. I speak to others often, though casual conversation is not what I am after; I need connections in my life. Others around my age are busy raising families and are only open to spending time with other couples; people at this point in their lives are pickier in choosing their friends and I have nothing of any value to add to their lives.
I live in a small town, have no circle of friends to meet others through, and have no idea where to even begin anymore. Going from casual conversation to friendship seems impossible at this point, but I am going to go insane if I have to keep living like this.