Hello hubieg: I see this is your first post here on PC... so... welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! May you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm afraid I can't be of much help with regard to this. One way or another, I have cut everyone I ever knew out of my life (except for my wife... & I keep her at arm's length as well.) I am pretty-much entirely solitary. I want nothing to do with anyone, in real life. So I'm afraid relationships aren't exactly my long suit, as they used to say... However, I wish you well...