I had a t retire; he gave lots of notice but I still was unable to accept it, to not see it as abandonment. I spent many sessions telling him how mad at him I was and how hurt I was but I never made any progress. We finally agreed that I was just being retraumatized each session and that I should quit seeing him. I was seeing 2 other ts at the time.
I know the industry standard is to give 6 weeks notice; I don't know if I would have done better with only 6 weeks or not.
But for me, I did need to tell him how upset I was. Being upset at abandonment was not allowed when I was a child.
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