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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
Hi Shy, I'm sorry you've had to deal with so much negativity from your family.
Why do you feel your husband says those hurtful things to you? Do you think it's a misguided attempt to help you?
I don't agree with him when he states fat people aren't respected, if he were to say that to me I would reply "That is your opinion but I don't agree with it", this was something I learned to say to my own H who is quite a forceful personality. It closes down the discussion without being drawn into 'I am right - you are wrong' stalemates.
I think it's really sad that he rarely says anything positive about you - has he ever, or is this a rut that has developed? How do you feel about him? Do you feedback positive comments to him? You don't have to answer these questions btw, they are just thoughts to float by you, as this is a very personal subject.
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Thanks. It's hurtful that my mom doesn't do a damn thing to stick up for me. She plays the victim and tells me that she is stuck in the middle, ugh! She showed more concern for not waking up my sisters b.f, like who could really sleep in the day when she's yelling at me too? She ignored my last couple of texts. She cares about my sister more since she kisses her butt. I don't.
I was calm at first, but she loves to pick on me. She'll never get a chance to hurt me again since I have finally decided to cut her out of my life for good. She likes to put me down to feel better about herself. It's obvious that she isn't as happy as she claims to be. Secure and happy people don't feel the need to hurt other people intentionally, especially again and again. My dad brushed it off and told me that's just how she is with them too.
I honestly don't think that my husband means to be hurtful. Like I said, he's blunt, and he's very opinionated. He's also a very black and white thinker. I don't agree with what he says either! Good for you for standing up to your H too! I just say whatever and walk aways usually, lol.
Well, he did compliment my hair, and he tells me that I'm still pretty, that I still look young (BUT I usually HAVE to ask him that) UGH! So that shocked me today!
He also still thinks that i have nice boobs even though they have a very slight sag to them, men, LOL! Oh, and I have nice skin, but again, he only said that a couple of times.