Another important thing I want to point out. The biggest source of anxiety for me when interacting with women is the fact that I am constantly trying to avoid coming off as interested and at the same time avoid coming off as aloof and unfriendly. It is very difficult. I think I often end up erring on the side of aloofness/unfriendliness and this probably effects me socially. All this wouldn't be a problem if there wasn't such a paranoid fear of natural male-female attraction in our society. I think my main goal for now is to start erring on the other side instead. For starters, I am going to make a point to start being much more bold with the girl at the gym. Really it isn't much worse for her to think I am creepy than for her to think I am aloof and unfriendly. Right?