I cannot stop thinking about a moral dilemma I have. My dilemma is about taking care of my brother or leaving him alone. He lives upstairs and he behaves like a bully often. He does not have a job and he does not contribute to our family house property taxes or any of the bills (electricity, etc). He hates our nephews and nieces and they cannot come to visit me or help me because he is aggressive towards them. He has paranoia and blame other people without logic. He has lost the majority of his friends. He does not want to sell the house where we live and get his share so I can live by myself because he is afraid of not being able to afford his own bills. While my mom was alive she economically supported him. Now, I don't feed him but I pay all the bills of the house. It is very difficult to live with him although he is upstairs. Sometime he is full of hate. I have more information to share but I think this is enough to illustrate.
I know that sooner than later I will be able to sell the house and get my share and buy a smaller one and live on my own. In the meantime, his proximity is a big problem to me. I suffer. My stomach hurts when he is around.
Many people say he is bad and has no solution.
But I know he has a mental health condition. He has done drugs, as well. He has never received appropriate treatment. He does not want to.
As he has been always a person with behavioral problems. Since he was born he has shown he is not OK (although he went to school and has a degree).
I have a severe disability and a chronic illness.
Despite all my limitations and that he does not behave well I have the moral dilemma of if I should take care of him or not.
How to do it it is another issue. I mean, if I make the decision to take the lead for his recovery (if his recovery is possible ) then I will have to see how to do it
But I am not sure if I want to do this. I do not know if I want to get involved in this issue.
It is a moral dilemma to me. If I do not help him, nobody is going to do it