Yes, Lexicon, you have your answer -- even if it is not the one you wanted. Now -- you must decide what you are going to do if he contacts you 2 weeks or 2 months or 6 months from now.

There is a kind of head-game player who will do this -- vanish for a while, then come back when you least expect just to make sure that you are still on his emotional "hook" and that he can reel you back in whenever you want to.

I would suggest being cool, pleasant, uninvolved -- and saying no, you're sorry, but you won't be able to get together with him. Or, if you really really must and think you can do it without causing yourself more pain (and there have been guys that I could not have done this with bec. of my own level of involvement) -- saying-- ok, i'll meet you for coffee for an hour in the morning or afternoon, definitely not evening. And sticking to the hour and leave. No matter how great it seems.

The main thing is, though: Have a plan.

Don't obsess about it. Don't anticipate and wait for it. But know who you are and what you deserve and what you consider an appropriate response.