Now I find the need to write again,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Team in place for surgery and gf now really has to come to grips with this ,,,,,,,,,,,,paperwork and pre -op is all that is left. I trust she is lucky to have seen the signs early enough and she has stayed the course and has now not missed any appointments...............earlier it was a hard convince to find the truth which was already known. Denial is a defensive mind set. Acceptance is a period of adjustment,,,,,,,,,,,,Thankfully she has many female family members and friends to see her through,,,,,,,,,,,Me ? I will always be on the sidelines,,,,,,and continue to be her Rock!