Have you researched emotional neglect? Childhood Emotional Neglect
When I was such a mess, none of my therapists could figure out why because my parents were nice, good, provided my needs, no abuse, no trauma, no pain. Then I got into a marriage where I hid in my career & it wasn't until that ended & no where to escape that I felt like I was dealing with emotional abuse which later research has made me realize it was emotional neglect.....none of it is intentional on their part it's because they had no idea HOW to be emotionally connected. It wasn't intentional abuse....but it definitely WAS unintentional NEGLECT because they didn't know any better & well, my H has an diagnosed condition that definitely has to do with being unable to emotionally connect that I have researched & it all makes sense now.....I left it all & my life turned around. I realized that if it was ME, I would have brought the problems with me but I didn't & I don't & I'm learning how to be a more normal person now & have countered the effects of the neglect & am surrounded by the most wonderful people & friends.